I’ve never been told about the ‘inner circle’ in regard to being able to buy stuff (which is downright stupid), but I have been in plenty of hobby shops over the years when I was completely ignored by the guy at the counter holding court with a gaggle of local retirees waxing philosophic about the layout they’ll build someday. I come across as someone who has the means to buy stuff, so I know it isn’t that.
I’ve encountered this kind of thing so often over the years, I won’t buy anything at a place like that unless I find a very rare item or a screaming deal. If you’re the person at the counter and you treat me like you’re doing ME a favor by taking my money, that money won’t go to you. I promise you that.
I’ve gone so far as to write the owners of a few places like that explaining my experience and how I won’t be back and will make a point to steer others from their place as well. Most don’t reply but I few have, begging forgiveness. Those, I’ve given a second chance to if I’m ever back in their area. I haven’t written many such stores, but I’ve had that experience so many times, I couldn’t count them all.
One egregious example near Sacramento still chafes at me. The guy at the counter completely ignored me entirely, in favor of some guy who clearly wasn’t going to buy anything. I almost waved my hand in front of his face, it was THAT bad. That one, I even posted my experience on Yelp, which is something I’ve only done the one time.
I DID have an issue with a local camera dealer when I turned pro in the early 2000's. I put together what I thought was a very significant purchase, and asked for a nice package deal. The owner made me feel like what I was buying was "chump change" compared to the AP guys who shot for the Philadelphia Inquirer and bought from him regularly. Not only did I not buy the package... I haven't been back in years. Since that time, I've probably run circles around the AP guys he claimed were bigger spenders. These guys never understand today's buyers aren't gullible... we're VERY street-savvy.
Yep, I’ve done that, too. It wasn’t model train related but I once had a huge stack of stuff at a place, ready pay, well into 4-digits worth, and the guy at the counter (with his manager right behind him) made a comment about the ‘small fry’ amount of stuff I was buying, comparing me to a ‘professional’ customer who had come in the previous day.
I immediately put my wallet away and said, “Oh. So considering my money isn’t valued here, and I can get this stuff a little cheaper online, I’ll just take my business elsewhere, permanently. I’m sorry I wasted so much of your valuable time which is better spent with those people whose money you value more than mine.” I looked at the manager and said, “He just lost this sale and all my future business. Good day,” and walked out. You should have seen the look on both their faces. The manager, once his brain kicked back in, actually ran out to the parking lot to apologize. I told him I accepted his apology but he lost the chance for any business from me by not stepping in to say something at the time. I reminded him of the old adage of having one chance at a first impression. He was still standing there, open-jawed, as I drove away, never to return.
Got a screaming deal online a week later on the same stuff, so it worked out well for me. I bet that employee had a LOT to answer for when the manager walked back into the store!
Any customer should be a good customer.
AMEN.