Originally Posted by John Pignatelli JR.:
I tried to put one up on the fire place mattle and was told in no unsurtain term to get it the #$$#%@$#%Y off of there. Then I tried the entertainment center, again %$%%@^%&^
The man cave(basement) is all that was left, now the daughter has her stained glass ^&7* junk down there and the wife wants part of the work bench for her sewing machine, the man cave has turned to His , hers and hers.
I hear you on this. About 2 years into the marriage, my wife start talking about building a house. My ONLY demand was (other than not moving where there's well water as I grew up with a well and we didn't have water if the power went out) I was to have a room for my stuff. She's decorated the whole house and yard in a style I sure wouldn't have picked, and she doesn't see that she really has the entire house already to do whatever she wants. Really, she doesn't see that at all, I've given up trying to explain that to her.
And like all such rooms, she's been trying to shoehorn eveything she possibly can into that room as if it's a giant hallway closet ever since. And everything has been bounced right out of there like the walls were made of rubber.
One of many reasons I wanted to put my planned On30 layout in there was I am certain it would change her perspective of what the room really is. If it's just a repository for my RR and WW2 collections, then all bets are off. But if it's a display room for the layout (which will take up the majority of the room as it's not a very big room to start with), I think that will change how she sees the place and that should stop the never-ending attempts to put other stuff in there.
I never put my foot down on much of anything with her, but THAT is one of the few things I don't back down on. That was the selling point for her having the house built at all.
I've known too many men like John who lost their only space in their own houses and I was not gonna back down on this. Ever.
I'm not one of those chest-thumping, "Me man, me rule all" types, but I have a short list of things that aren't open for discussion or compromise. This is one of them. Growing up, I never had room for a layout of anything of my own and now that I'm in my 40s, I know I've earned the right to have that room the way I want it.