Dallas the PHD electronic genius here John ...............do you have a visual diagram ?
Edit- a major note here is the second coupler- ideally should be a LIONEL or MTH PS1 style coupler- rated for FULL track voltage!!!
A PS2/3 style electrocoupler is wound with a coil meant for LESS than track voltage and might fail or overheat if supplied FULL track voltage.
Actually, being honest and reviewing this more, I'm not sure if the parallel load of both a factory PS3 coupler, and a relay coil in parallel is safe either. It just brings up a lot of limitations of the output of the PS3 board and the tiny SMD FET used. In other words, I'm sure the FET could fire a relay, maybe both couplers off the same relay output so that the board only sees the coil of the relay.
Going further, if you wanted to stick with original PS2/3 style couplers, then we also need that voltage source and ground- so more wires potentially in the tether system. I know PS3 diagrams could show us the connections to PV (positive voltage from the board) and pcb ground.
I'm just saying, sure, I tried to help out and draw a diagram of what was being discussed. I'm not sure I can endorse this as being the best solution and the added inductive load and kickback of a relay coil in parallel to an existing coupler could push the limit and be as bad as 2 couplers.