Yes, they are toys. All the more reason why they should consistently provide joy and not frustration, especially in light of today's high prices. If you have a tool that's sub-par, you might perservere with it and get the job done. But a bad toy is just landfill bait.
Personally it bothers me when a product doesn't live up to its promise, or to the buyer's reasonable expectation. My tongue-in-cheek remark about Postwar was to remind readers that everything made until 1957 (and probably much later) worked as expected. Even our early MPC-era cars usually coupled on the first or second try. Later MPC, 1980s production, didn't always close and latch. Perhaps this was due to worn molds or cost-cutting. Perhaps Lionel didn't care because of the shift in focus to adult collectibles that weren't being "played with." Trains had become too expensive, and kids were playing with video games instead.
There have never been comprehensive NMRA standards for 3-rail O Gauge trains. But for over 40 years, Lionel Corp. production was the de facto standard. After about 1983, when the number of manufacturers began to proliferate, it seems that they just didn't bother to make an accurate copy. K-Line particularly has a visibly different geometry; Weaver wasn't much better. Early MTH couplers seemed to open on their own pretty often, we were quick to wire the worst offenders shut.
My dad was a design engineer. There was nothing he couldn't fix, but he was quite critical of anything he worked on. He always said, "Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door." Years of technological progress, and instead of a BETTER mousetrap, now the mouse eats the cheese and gets away!