I don't believe slight mismatches in locomotive speed are anything to worry about. Here is my thinking. Say you have two locomotives pulling thirty cars. By themselves running light one locomotive runs a little faster than the other. When coupled together, they are forced to operate at the same speed. What happens? One just pulls a little more than the other. How much more?
Here is how you could find out: Take the two locomotives, put them on parallel tracks. Split the thirty cars, fifteen to one locomotive, fifteen to the other. One runs faster. Move one car from the slow one and put it behind the fast one. Long one slows down, short one speeds up. Continue moving cars until the speeds match. That is the load-share they will have when coupled together with all thirty cars. Impractical to do for most of us, but the point is you wouldn't worry about either locomotive if one was pulling seventeen and the other was pulling thirteen by themselves, so no need to worry about it when they are coupled together.
Further, I would not worry about which one as fast or slow. The rear coupler of the second locomotive pulls all thirty cars no matter what. If that coupler can take the load, then all is good.
Having said that, I am assuming that the mismatch is not severe. If it is then one locomotive is either pushing or dragging the other. However, this is happening only if the train runs faster with the slow locomotive removed. As long as the train runs faster with both, then there is some amount of load sharing.
Finally, if the mismatch is somewhere between mild and severe, then you could have one locomotive carrying most of the load and the other not doing much work at all. The only worry here is the long-term effect on the running gear of the heavily loaded engine.
For those interested in physics and engineering, I believe a free-body diagram of the forces on both locomotives, combined with an analysis of the torque-speed curves of permanent-magnet DC motors, will support my arguments here. The balance is a little more sensitive for wound-field motors, but the basic arguments still hold.
Doorstop Jim