This requires a latching relay. Azatrax makes this one with very complete instructions for different applications. Here is the application with stall motor switch machines.

Here they are using separate SPST pushbuttons for each turnout direction. You would use a second pair of SPST pushbuttons wired in parallel to the first set. Alternatively, you could use a SPDT momentary contact switch in each location.
The Azatrax board is heavy duty and overkill for this application. Bare relays are available on aliexpress for a couple dollars, but no instructions and you have to look up the pinouts.
Here is a long thread discussing using an AIU to control Tortoise machines. It requires the same solution, but the discussion includes a lot of technical detail. Look at Stan's post here for the bottom line.
Bob