I HAVE been reading each post very carefully. My apologies to anyone whom I have not thanked personally by name in my posts here. Please know I have read yours and I truly appreciate all the suggestions. I am dedicating myself to building the best possible railroad I can. I want the trains to run flawlessly and I will leave no tone unturned in becoming better at this. I hate it, but I can get better. So many thanks to all of you for putting up with my moaning and b*******.
I feel like I am learning enough now to continue to try. Apparently, I didn't even know all of the things I have been doing wrong. I wish there was a good soldering class nearby.
1) "The trigger switch may not be working properly. You also need to confirm, which position is the 140 watt/most heat" . . . . . MikeCT I have no idea if it is working properly. 
2) "If the solder runs to the end of the tip and hangs there like a BB then the tip is not conditioned for use." .....NelsonNW Exactly what my solder did
3) "Also NEVER use a file or sandpaper on the tip most soldering iron tips are made of steel with a coating applied. Once that coating is gone so is the tip through it out." NelsonNW Sigh, exactly what I did. 
4) "it is very important to clean the soldering tip of the iron or you wont ever be ale to solder anything at all !!!!!! a black burnt tip on an iron wont ever melt solder." Repair Technician Sigh, my tip is burnt and black. 
5) "SCREW IT" . . . . Moonman
6) "Zinc Chloride flux" . . . . . Norton I will look into this. Thanks. 
7) "One other thing Eliot, look for a bigger tip for your iron and hold it sideways on the rail." Norton Will do. Thanks. 
I did buy a new soldering iron on Amazon last night. The tip on my Weller is black, burnt, and filed away. I will can it. Home Despot does not carry replacement tips.
Work voltage: 110V
Power: 60W
Temp range: 200~450℃
Tips model: 900M series
Case material: Plastic
Stand: Steel
Solder sucker: Plastic and aluminum alloy
Solder wire: 97%Sn-0.7%Cu-2.0%Flux-0.8mm dia.- 0.64 oz
