says", That Ship has Sailed"
she and the kid wanted dive through burgers, fries and a pop. I came home with stuff for them.... she asked, "where's yours " I said, " rather spend it on trains, " she said, that ship has sailed"
wait, What??? Help, What do I say?
(crap, that's gonna cut into my online ordering,)
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$6.00 Cuts into your train budget???..Just bustin yer Ba77's Nick
You should have said "I'm saving it towards flowers for Mother's Day."
You don't say anything. Just buy what you want when you want. Ask for forgiveness later. 
RUN FOR THE HILLS WHILE YOU HAVE A CHANCE !
My girl friend (now my Wife ! BIG MISTAKE ) back in 97 tried telling me to get rid of my dog & cat ! I said NO ! GOOD Bye !
A month later she changed her mind ! Both pets lived their full lives with me !
She tried to limit my spending on trains & computers ! AGAIN NO ! She is welcome to divorce me ! Any time ! I am still waiting !
Like Meatloaf said in a song Waiting for the end of Time !
Yes dear, I'm sorry, you're right. Oh and flowers always help.
Miggy, Buy her a Pink engine and tell her that it's from you and the grandkids! Now she has one she can run with the little ones!
Dan Padova posted:Yes dear, I'm sorry, you're right. Oh and flowers always help.
Smart…VERY Smart.
Traindiesel posted:You don't say anything. Just buy what you want when you want. Ask for forgiveness later.
Been happily married for 52 years and I can tell you asking for forgiveness later may sound great but that wears thin all too soon. I swear my wife knows if I'm just thinking about buying something behind her back.
Could be, but I have it easy I guess since no woman can resist me. 
WRGMILW posted:RUN FOR THE HILLS WHILE YOU HAVE A CHANCE !
My girl friend (now my Wife ! BIG MISTAKE ) back in 97 tried telling me to get rid of my dog & cat ! I said NO ! GOOD Bye !
A month later she changed her mind ! Both pets lived their full lives with me !
She tried to limit my spending on trains & computers ! AGAIN NO ! She is welcome to divorce me ! Any time ! I am still waiting !
Like Meatloaf said in a song Waiting for the end of Time !
I agree completely. I love her but come on. You still have to be your own man. I not saying be a jerk, but grow a pair. I understand there are priorities, but you worked for it too. I'd never live that way.
No need to worry till they get one of these .
Guy
Be tactful. Consider what words she could use to minimize your discomfort when she says she just spent $450 on a new housedress.
This is getting so deep and emotional I think I better ask, what does " that ship has sailed" mean? It obviously doesn't mean what I thought.
Boy, then I must have the greatest wife in the world. I tell her what I buy, how much it costs and or what I want to spend. No secrets here. All I get is a "okay honey, no problem, you deserve it". And even though I'm running out of room to store this stuff, she still says "You can store some of it in my closet, if you need too". Gotta Love her!
MattR posted:WRGMILW posted:RUN FOR THE HILLS WHILE YOU HAVE A CHANCE !
My girl friend (now my Wife ! BIG MISTAKE ) back in 97 tried telling me to get rid of my dog & cat ! I said NO ! GOOD Bye !
A month later she changed her mind ! Both pets lived their full lives with me !
She tried to limit my spending on trains & computers ! AGAIN NO ! She is welcome to divorce me ! Any time ! I am still waiting !
Like Meatloaf said in a song Waiting for the end of Time !
I agree completely. I love her but come on. You still have to be your own man. I not saying be a jerk, but grow a pair. I understand there are priorities, but you worked for it too. I'd never live that way.
Look her right in the eye and say"FOR BETTER OR WHORSE!!You do recall that don,t you?!
I'm blown away she thought she could tell you to get rid of your dog and cat, I'd sooner cut my arm off than get rid of my dog
Seriously, all this train stuff is my wife's fault. A 671 set, 51 switcher, four 022 switches, some track and a ZW were all safely packed away as my most prized possession. So one night in 1983 she wants to get them out and see them run. I had never seen a catalog before and no idea Lionel had made anything other than my train. So to get more track we went to a hobby store in Dallas and saw their postwar inventory and my, my, my the flood gates opened.
Now I just let the grandson justify new stuff. She just sighs and looks the other way.
It's just money, and after looking at the auction catalogs, I don't think anyone has taken their trains with them.
The ship may have sailed, but it is always headed to another port
Doug
I keep telling Scott Mann that every time I place an order, it's just money
"That ship has sailed"? Sounds like a good excuse to buy a sailboat!
A newly-built Herreshoff 12 like mine (ours is 31yeard old) will set you back $50K+. Then you've got your yard bill, yacht club membership dues, mooring fee, trailer registration, and probably a half gallon of Epifanes varnish, brush thinner, sand paper, bottom paint (pushing $200/gallon)... I keep the marine wholesalers on speed dial.
Those trains are now considered a harmless little hobby!
Its all about perspective!
Jon
IME there is truth to be told on both sides with wives who fight you every step of the way and guys who have no restraint. An elevated example of the nesting desire that females have in maintaining household order and the acquisition / accumulation male drive.
Guys who lack restraint need spouses speaking reality. The goal being balance and harmony. Opinion
When I see threads like this, I cannot tell whether the posters are serious or joking.
I have met people whose collecting habits (including model railroading) caused friction in the home, even to the point of divorce. Once I was seated at a table at a reception with the ex-wife of a train enthusiast. When she found out I was into trains, things got a little cold.
I've been doing trains for almost fifty years now. My wife knew about them when we were dating. She is not into the trains, but she is very supportive of my hobby.
I've never used credit to buy trains or spent money on them that needed to be spent elsewhere.
ConrailFan posted:Boy, then I must have the greatest wife in the world. I tell her what I buy, how much it costs and or what I want to spend. No secrets here. All I get is a "okay honey, no problem, you deserve it". And even though I'm running out of room to store this stuff, she still says "You can store some of it in my closet, if you need too". Gotta Love her!
You gotta be living in some kind of alternate universe or something!
And as CW stated, which I forgot to state, I like him have never used credit or money destined for the family to buy trains. I've put off buying a lot of trains due to family responsibilities and my wife knows that, it's just the way it is. While I love the hobby, my wife and daughter come first and know that, then the house, the dog and then way down the list me. Which is why nobody minds when I go off on a spending spree every once in a while.
KOOLjock1 posted:"That ship has sailed"? Sounds like a good excuse to buy a sailboat!
A newly-built Herreshoff 12 like mine (ours is 31yeard old) will set you back $50K+. Then you've got your yard bill, yacht club membership dues, mooring fee, trailer registration, and probably a half gallon of Epifanes varnish, brush thinner, sand paper, bottom paint (pushing $200/gallon)... I keep the marine wholesalers on speed dial.
Those trains are now considered a harmless little hobby!
Its all about perspective!
Jon
Jon I'm/was a power boater and know all too well the joy and pain of owning a boat and belonging to a private marina. As they say "the two happiest days in a boat owners life is the day he buys a boat and the day he sells it." Well I sold the boat now I just have to sell my slip. Bottom line - MORE TRAIN MONEY.
My wife just accepts it. She says it better than you going out drinking and all. At least you stay home to do this hobby. If I goto someplace, ie train meet of some type she comes along. she even likes them now. Not enough to run them but enough to admire them. And oh yes she knows if a new train is on the shelf.
If you are the Captain of your ship (bread winner) buy what you want.
It all come down to money. You have it or you don't. My wife just got a $90 hairdoo. I thought it was a lot. If it make her happy, it is OK .
Doug
RJR posted:Be tactful. Consider what words she could use to minimize your discomfort when she says she just spent $450 on a new housedress.
Now there's a term that won't get you any points today.
Traindiesel posted:Could be, but I have it easy I guess since no woman can resist me.
Took the words right out of my mouth.
I knew a fellow on Long Island who use to sneak the trains into his home. sometimes he would keep them at a friends home till things cooled down at home. My wife of 52 years is my life's partner. I don't lie or sneak trains in , I also never used funds that were earmarked for the family budget.
she knows what I have and what it cost, and is supportive of my hobby.
ITS A HOBBY IT SHOULD NOT BE AN ADDICTION!!
YES I AM A LUCKY FELLOW.
Marty Fitzhenry posted:If you are the Captain of your ship (bread winner) buy what you want.
I told my wife this and she said be careful or the first mate may throw you overboard 
!!
Marty Fitzhenry posted:If you are the Captain of your ship (bread winner) buy what you want.
Marty if I bought everything I wanted I wouldn't be getting ready to celebrate 53 years of being happily married. That's more important than selfish wants.
mike g. posted:Miggy, Buy her a Pink engine and tell her that it's from you and the grandkids! Now she has one she can run with the little ones!
The Lionel Corp. Tinplate Girl's set is beautiful, try that
We married so I could share her love of clothes, shoes and purses, she, however, could give a rat's about tools, hot rods, motorcycles, and postwar toy trains. I don't get it?
Bogie
If you are the Captain of your ship (bread winner) buy what you want.
"Any more bright ideas Captain?"
Jerry
#Jerry good one! Hilarious, ty.......
This thread is just strange.
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