Gunrunnerjohn -
I fully agree with the importance of a reasonable and adjustable temperature regulated soldering iron, good no-clean flux solder, and the right iron tip for the job, the iron temperature adjusted for the job at hand. A reasonable iron isn't very expensive and should last a modeler's lifetime, or until replacement tips are no longer available and those pre-purchased have been exhausted after being properly maintained. There are many expensive models that can be easier to use and have extra features such as automatic temperature set-back to extend tip life, or auto shut off after a period of time.
That said, an iron in a fancy stand with just a knob, instead of a temperature dial, is just a cheap iron hooked up to a light dimmer. Mostly worthless.
I largely agree on temperature, although for soldering most SMT (surface mount package for those unfamiliar) such as 1206 resistors and SOIC chips to circuit boards I've found 650F to work just fine. I never need to heat the part and pad for more than 1 or 2 seconds when they are clean and fluxed, always with eutectic leaded solder. With a clean pad, flux, and a proper chisel tip it is easy to place thin solder 2/3 the width of a 1206 resistor, against the part and pad, slide in, slide out all within a second or two. Nothing gets up to the tip temperature except the far extremities.
For me, today as a hobbyist and no longer a practicing EE, my notable soldering exception is the modern plastic-package chip LED about which I wrote. You are absolutely correct, the standard data sheet specified reflow oven max temp is 260C/500F and dwell time at that temperature 10 seconds max. That's not the temperature profile the all parts can handle, but a standardized temp profile that can solder the weakest parts without massive carnage. During that dwell, there is really very little mechanical stress on a plastic package SMT LED as it floats in two puddles of molten solder paste. But we are hand-soldering, not using a reflow oven.
Back in the day of ceramic packages, I enjoyed using a homemade version of an LED soldering fixture sold by Ngineering. It had two flat tipped copper alligator clips soldered to a bit of sheet brass. One clip held the LED, the other a wire to be attached. I found that pressure from the clip on the sides of a plastic body 1206 LED caused it to "squish" and be destroyed when heat was applied.
Regards!