Let us know what era trains you are referring to.
Pre- and post-war trains use an electromechanical E-unit. They can get out of synch, and the only way to get them playing nicely together again is to operate one of the E-unit ON-OFF levers manually, (with the track power ON) until you get them going in the same direction.
Later trains from other Lionel-compatible manufacturers (and possibly Lionel themselves, but I can't say with authority) use electronic E-units. Many of these have a built-in timing feature that will force the locomotive into forward, after a pre-determined time lapse. That is the way the modern manufacturers overcame the out-of-synch problem.
If you have post-war locomotives, you can replace the E/M E-units with after-market electronic ones from Dallee, for example. They have the "start in forward" (and I believe also a "start in neutral") feature.