First things first: unlike most of our models, in real life diesels use spur gears to connect the traction motors on each axle to its wheels. The ratio is usually about 4:1. All of the gears lie in the same plane, and the wheels can turn the motor. So a faster loco can always "push" a slower one without bucking, etc.
As I understand it, this gear ratio, the number of traction motors, and the design of the traction motors determines at what speed the loco can safely maintain its maximum rated tractive effort.
Example 1: A four-axle freight diesel geared for 65 mph might achieve a peak 50,000 lbs of tractive effort at 13 mph for a maximum of 5 minutes (which would hopefully be enough time to accelerate the train to more than 13 mph.)
Example 2: A passenger diesel geared for 90 mph might generate 36,000 lbs of tractive effort at 18 mph, again for a max of 5 minutes "short time rating."
So if the two were MU'd together and struggled with a heavy train at speeds below 18 mph for more than 5 minutes, the crew would be at risk of overheating the traction motors on the passenger unit.
I think some of the later computer-controlled diesels automatically "derate" themselves or even shut down rather than burn up their motors. However, when the weaker engine quits, this would cause the train to stall and it couldn't move again until the motors cooled off. That's a long day on the railroad!
Some brands of diesels, like Baldwin, had a reputation for very durable traction motors that could withstand abuse. But a good trainmaster wouldn't pair an ex-passenger loco and a freight loco on a long distance assignment, because the passenger unit might overheat in mountainous terrain, or the freight unit could not be used to its full hauling capacity. Now all of the above applies to real-life diesels with DC traction motors as was typical before the 1990s.
Newer locos meant for heavy hauling have AC traction motors. These motors are extremely powerful and controlled in a different way. So they might be able to maintain their full tractive effort indefinitely at very slow speeds for loading coal, yet still achieve top speeds of 75 mph, fast enough for the hottest container freights. I've heard some engineers say they are difficult to modulate at low speed. So Lionel isn't the only one that struggled with the "Odyssey Lurch!"
There are a lot of folks on this Forum who are professional railroaders with seat time in a real diesel locomotive. Hopefully one of them will respond and correct me if I'm wrong!