Starting to not hurt as much - father passed on January 14.

Good fathers are never forgotten.

MELGAR

So very sorry to hear about your dads passing.  Keep his memory in your heart and he will live on forever.  Love of a person does not die with their passing.  He and you are in my prayers.

Franky-Ogee

MELGAR: WELL STATED!

Condolences on your loss.  You'll remember him every time you run your trains.

I am truly sorry about your loss, my dad passed away a number of years ago and there isn't a day when I don't think about him.  We shared the love of trains the way you and your dad did, and one of the things that still brings me a lot of comfort even so many years later is remembering that shared love, and that, and the other gifts he left me that have become apparent over time, have made it in some ways like he never left, as much as I miss him. 

Can't say it will get easier, at this point it is the memories and hopefully good feelings they bring that will help you thru. Had a friend pass away from that some years back. He was in such good shape his Army uniform from Vietnam still fit, had run the Marathons and was working on another. Within 4 months of diagnosis he passed and the treatment was so horrific his wife had a closed casket.

Condolences to you and yours.

I understand .

Larry

Eddie M,

   Sorry about your loss, lost my Father in 1984 still feel the loss even today.  I hope you are a little better now.

PCRR/Dave

So sorry for your loss 

Prayers to you and yours......

Dad passed 2.5 years ago. I have to drive past his  old house when I go to town.....hard not to pull in and see him. It will get better. 

Eddie, slowly more and more good memories will fill your day. It takes time as your finding out. I know as all my family is gone including my sister. I just think of the good times now, yes it takes awhile but you will see. Your lucky to have had him. Don

Thoughts and prayers to you.  Matt

Condolences to you and your family.

Eddie,

First, I am so sorry to learn of the loss of your father and I am thinking of you in my prayers. I lost my own dad almost two years ago and at first it was a very sad time, then as time passed , I started to think more of the funny and good times we had together. I also feel that time spent praying and asking for the Lords help in overcoming my sadness helped greatly and also knowing that my father is with my father in Heaven forever.

                           Jon

every time you rev up a transformer...............he will be there with you!

So sorry for your loss. I lost my father 7 years ago, and miss him everyday. But the memories are so strong, he's still besides me.

I'm sorry to read this.   I lost my Mother in March nearly 2 years ago and it still isn't any better for me.  My  Mom was my model train and Christmas display influence!  And she cheered me to do all I had done in both hobbies all of my life.  God bless you and your family! 

Jim 

Nice tribute. I hear and feel your pain. Lost my dad last summer. He was my best friend. 

Hello Eddie, I understand your situation. I learned my love of playing golf and model railroading from my father. I lost him about 45 years ago and when I make a good or bad shot, I silently think of him as I do when I run my trains, which, like him, uses  equipment from the Boston & Maine RR. The thoughts of him will never go away and I don't want them to, either.

Eddie:

Sorry about your loss and the pain you are feeling.  I lost my Dad on January 9 and can well relate.

Curt

Sorry for your loss. Lost my mother last June. It takes time, but it's a slow process. 

Sorry for your loss. Dad's been gone 44 years, Mom 46. I was 17 when I lost Dad, a WW2 navy veteran. Like Matt say's it takes time but you never get over it but it does get better.

It is very sad to lose a parent and like yourself I miss those that have passed;  mom, dad, my first wife, all my aunts, uncles, in-laws and a few cousins. While I feel your pain consider that we were blessed to have many great memories with family that are indelible in our hearts. As a Christian and a man of faith, I firmly believe that the separation from our lost loved ones will only be temporary.

Prayers!!!!!

Eddie, I'm praying for you and your mom during this time. !!

I have thought about this much recently.  I haven't lost a close relative since the last grandmother in 1978.  Mum and Dad and my favorite aunt are well up in years; and though I know where they are going, I know it will be painful to see them go.  It is already painful to see their decline.

Sending prayers your way. Lost my Mom in October. She loved Dept 56 buildings setting up a Christmas village every year during the holiday season. No visit to my house was complete until she had a visit to my basement layout. Always gave her the biggest smile and everything I created she thought was wonderful. 

Sadness means we had tremendous parents. I hope the great memories of your Dad comfort you in the months and years to come.,

Eddie, I lost Dad in '98 and felt a loss because I never got to say goodbye, he passed while I was away on a business trip and I got the call in the middle of the night. We never had a shared hobby or connected memories, but I see him in things every day, my kids, my own habits, even my image in the mirror, he and I often were mistaken as brothers. 

Learning to remember the good and fun times will ease the pain, but the loss will always be there. Enjoy those trains, it not only makes new memories, it replenishes the memories you shared with him. Name a station or feature on your layout in tribute, that will bring a smile more often than a tear, and share your Dad with all who encounter your layout.

My condolences and prayers for you and the family.

Ron

I know your pain, this Monday will be one year since my Dad passed, and it still hurts a lot.  While he wasn't a train guy himself (USAF) he did everything he could for me so I could enjoy my hobby, taking me for train rides on real and miniature railroads, making sure Santa brought me train stuff every Christmas, taking detours to chase a train.  He went to great lengths to get me my first Lionel set in 1953.  We were stationed in the territory of Alaska then, and Dad was flying F-94's over the Bering intercepting Soviet interlopers.  There weren't any Lionel sets to be found at the BX or in town, so he asked one of his buddies who was flying down to Seattle to find one.  So I received a Lionel Scout set that had been flown to our home, not in Santa's sleigh, but in a jet fighter.  

I sure miss him.

Sorry about the passing of your dad.  Mine passed away 17 years ago.  Things will start looking brighter soon.

Eddie, condolences and prayers for you and your family.

I just lost my father this past September, the day after my wife and I moved to California.  Dad and Mom moved to Phoenix from Philadelphia in 2003.  Before they moved we were building an N scale layout in their basement, the same basement we had all of our Christmas layouts when I was a kid.  After they moved, and my subsequent dismantling of my layout before we moved, he never got to see my layout.  At least now I'm only a few hours drive to see Mom instead of across the country.

hi Eddie, 

Thanks for your post. Your dad led an amazing life and he was very fortunate to have you as a son.  I don't know the entire pecking order of cancers, but I think  pancreatic cancer is among the most difficult to overcome, so that is very painful to see happen to a loved one.  Coins, vintage baseball cards, and trains are the trifecta of great hobbies, and hopefully you will find some joy in going thru them.

When my dad passed, I needed to take care of his estate.  Some things just made me laugh: some of his clothes were a bit tattered, mainly the underwear, yet he had five brand new packages in the closet.  This was not a matter of finances, but just old habits from growing up during the depression.    Typical of dad, he always had spares, even headlight lamps for cars that he had not owned for  30 years... 

(big ol hug) Hang in there, amigo.  The pain will fade in time, but memory will remain evergreen.   

Mitch 

My deepest sympathy for you and your family. Such a loss. When my Mom died one of her friends said to me "You will think of her every day." That has turned out to be perfect truth and I am sure the same is true for you and your dad. 

All the best

Don Merz 

So sorry Eddie for your loss and thank you for sharing your thoughts of him with us. I have yet to deal with this pain. My father is 82 now and mom 79. Sharing your feelings helps all of us, who still have our parents, realize how precious the time we spend with them is and that each visit can be our last. It's a wake up call to increase those number of visits and spend more time with them. I will be seeing them both today and your post will be on my mind. It will help me to absorb every word they say and stamp those words and visions of them in my memory more so then ever.

Deepest sympathies on the passing of your beloved father.

I know how it is.  My Dad's been gone ten years.  I think of him every time I look at my Lionel 2026 that he bought for me in 1951.

You never completely get over it, but the worst will pass.

Eddie,

I am sorry for your loss.  Back in 2014, my parents passed within two weeks of each other;  Dad from heart failure and Mom from a fall (and a broken heart). 

All I can tell you is that loving parents make lasting bonds with their children.  Not even death can separate us from the love they poured into our hearts.  Gradually, ever so gradually, the pain will be replaced with the wonderful memories you shared.

I saw this verse on a piece of statuary in a nursery somewhere in eastern Ohio.  It struck a chord:

"If tears could build a stairway,

and memories a lane,

I'd walk right up to heaven

and bring you home again."

 

All the best,

George

I'm so very sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family...many prayers to all of you.

I am sorry for your loss. You will always miss him, but he is part of you, and you will see that even more as time goes on.