Will,
It's all in good jest. We are only talking about train tables here, . . . not each other's wives!
And, actually, based on the initial reply comments posted by folks a few weeks ago, I went with lighter than normal framing, using 2x3 stock as cross joists, in 4 foot spans, instead of my original thought of 2x4s. (I just used 2x4s for the outer rims of the table.)
I would have gone with 1x4s as the interior cross joists, because as many people pointed out, they are really really strong for their weight. But, the 2x3s are much easier to nail in or screw in at the headers and footers, since you have a nice 1.5 inch end thickness, instead of just 3/4 inch. And, 2x3s cost exactly the same as 1x4s at Lowes.
A few folks got ruffled with my replies, but you may be surprised at how many LIKES I received on my replies by other members. So, plainly there are two schools of thought here.
And, one of my main issues was, given that I have three rambunctious 5 year old grandsons, I had to make my table fairly bulletproof. (Young boys have a very nasty habit of doing exactly what they are not suppose to do when you are not looking!)
Best to you,
Mannyrock