I can't speak for all folks in this hobby but from what I observed through my life is that most of us are basically loners.
Not that we don't crave the security of a loving family around us, but most of us would go nuts if we did not have our alone time. We are the types that need that more then most people.
When I was a teenager I started to look at girls due to the normal development of my social and family drives. But, when I found a young lady who would demand all of my time I would be gone before you could say, no way lady.
This was true of me even when I was not in the hobby. Of course when I met my wife and started a family, love and responsibility took over and I spent 99 percent of my time seeing to it that those things came first.
But, when I finally got around to spending some time in my train room I would not tolerate the loss of those few hours a week alone with my thoughts and toys.
My wife once told me that the basement, or in my case train room should be converted to a play room for my son. I simply told her to forget it, I had to work to get my mans cave let him work to get his.
Well, she would not stop even after I gave her space for a laundry room, storage closets, a second bathroom and more. So I made up a sign that hung on the header as you walked down the steps to our basement; "My Wife Told Me That if I Buy One More Toy Train She Would Leave Me, Gee I'm Going To Miss the Old Girl"!
Some may say I'm a hard nose, well I say tough DoDo. I bought our home where she wonted it,I fixed it up how she wonted it, I worked two jobs and overtime to pay for it and If I can't spec out ten percent for myself then I'm not sure if I need all this togetherness stuff.
Oh yea I forgot to tell you guys that when I walk up those steps out of my little hole in the ground my wife is the boss and I like it that way.