Real couplers are different from model railroad couplers, and I don't mean just size. They work differently. Despite what is said on page 78 of the April Model Railroader Magazine, knuckle pins on real trains do NOT transmit the drawbar forces and are not subject to any shear forces. In fact knuckle pins can be missing. Every knuckle pin in a train can be gone and the train will operate as normal. I've ran enough trains with missing knuckle pins to know this is fact. They carry no load. They are there simply to act as a hinge to allow the knuckle to pivot open and closed, they keep the knuckle from falling out when the car is uncoupled.
Knuckle pins are supposed to be held in place by a large cotter pin at their bottom. But these cotter pins are frequently missing. When unit-train coal cars are rotated for unloading these unsecured knuckle pins will often fall out. But the train will continue on as usual, perhaps for months. Until some poor conductor tries to uncouple that car and the knuckle then falls out onto his foot. (Yeh I know, he should not have had his foot between the rails).